The Only Thing of Value

"The only thing of value you have to share with anyone else is what I have done for you."

Invite me to the wedding. God

Bob Ps 103:8 - For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.

Whether for better or worse, your marrige is only for a season. But the consequences of how you live it out are for eternity.

"All the work and prayer I put into our marriage didn't change it."

But it changed you! Your marriage will someday pass and fade away. But what I have done will remain forever.

The world blames marriage problems on things like communication, incompatibility, or just drifting apart. But in the vast majority of cases, the marriage doesn't cause the problems. It merely reveals them. The Holy Spirit once explained to me,

Every problem in a marriage is a direct reflection of a problem that one or both spouses have in their relationship with God.

After thinking this over for a day I asked somewhat skeptically, "Every problem?" The answer was a prompt

Without exception.

Christians are just as confused as the unsaved world when they blame marriage problems on communication. The Holy Spirit says,

Where there is love, no misunderstanding is too great. And where there is not love, no amount of communication is enough.

Pastor and Christian author Francis Chan observes, "There has never been in the history of this earth a Spirit-filled couple that has divorced. Never. So the issue is not his needs or her needs or love languages or this or that. The issue is that somehow, as individuals, you don't understand the love of Jesus. You don't understand it, you don't get it, you haven't been filled with that love. And that's why you start fighting and arguing and quarreling. It's because of that emptiness that you want the other person to fill. It all goes back to this. It' s the core issue. I think about how many hours I've wasted counseling in marriages, when it really wasn't about the marriage. You really don't understand how much God loves you. You don't really understand this love of Christ that surpasses knowledge."

When things begin to unravel in your marriage, it's time to stop thinking like the world and start listening to God.

Blaming your spouse will never fix what's wrong with you.

You can't feed someone else when there's famine in your own soul.

Where the Holy Spirit is, there can be no lack of love, no lack of forgiveness.

Your relationship with each other can be no deeper than your relationship with Me.

If all you do is fall in love, it's only a matter of time before you fall out of love.

You're not really free to love until you learn to love My way.

You've been given something beautiful. But it's up to you to make it grow.

No matter how beautiful to begin with, a garden left untended will come to ruin.

When it comes to love, is your aim to get it or give it?

The bigger sin is not teens who let their passions run out of control, but married couples who refuse to love one another.

Marriage is as much about forgiveness as it is about love.

The sinful (carnal) nature cannot live at peace in a marriage, nor will it forgive.

Hos 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.

Statistics - The divorce rate is now over 50% for both Christians and non-Christians alike. But there is one special group of people whose divorce rate is only 2%. Their marriages stay intact with a 98% success rate. What is their secret? These couples are daily in God's Word and they pray together. Jesus heals hurting marriages and makes good ones even better. Why not step into the marriage God planned for you?